I suppose I was turned on by meeting men in a higher social league than my beer-swilling peer group. Can help with tuition fees/rent etc.”I was naively shocked at first and deleted any such message. One day an American banker invited me to accompany him on a business trip to New York. He took me shopping, insisting we go into designer shops. They use these websites because they want genuine companionship, but they’re too busy or travel too much to pursue a full-time relationship.
After a couple of months, however, I became aware of a subculture to the site where men offer gifts or financial support in return for a girl’s regular company. I felt awkward and it felt grabby to accept anything, so eventually he took the lead and told a Prada shop assistant to “look after me.” He bought nearly everything I tried on. A cash allowance is merely a replacement for what they can’t afford to invest emotionally.
Although I have no regrets, I would be lying if I said it didn’t affect my approach to relationships.
My sugar daddies were chivalrous and respectful, but when someone is compensating you for your time, a power dynamic emerges. Relationships seemed like a chore, and it was easier to stay free and single.
I formed two more “compensated relationships,” one with a London-based lawyer who suggested a generous pre-paid monthly store card at the upmarket Selfridges.