Ahalya: I’ve had many discussions with my family about this.
There are definitely some cultural backgrounds they are more comfortable with and others they view as “too different” from their own, which gets conflated with racial differences as well.
Alice: I actually suspect that race matters to white families too, even if it’s not as prominent as in Asian families.
I have an amazing relationship with my boyfriend’s family, and his mother often talks happily to colleagues about me and my relationship with her son.
You can see it with the mestizas in the Philippines.