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The emotional processes which worked for him as a child may begin to work against him as an adult. of Duke University supports the idea that invalidation leads to mental health problems.

When we are invalidated by having our feelings repudiated, we are attacked at the deepest level possible, since our feelings are the innermost expression of our individual identities.

Telling a person she shouldn't feel the way she does feel is akin to telling water it shouldn't be wet, grass it shouldn't be green, or rocks they shouldn't be hard. Whether we like or understand someone's feelings, they are still real.

A sensitive child who is repeatedly invalidated becomes confused and begins to distrust his own emotions.

He fails to develop confidence in and healthy use of his emotional brain-- one of nature's most basic survival tools.

When we are attacked, our survival instinct tells us to defend ourselves either through withdrawal or counter-attack.