They want to care together for their child, to love, to think.
But men in Russia prefer to put all the care on women's shoulders.
Also, an "iron curtain" for many years makes its impact, Russian people have very rough idea of mentality about russian dating, moral-ethics values, norms of communication with people from different countries. Many Russian women , who communicate with men through Internet, actually seem reserved and anxious.
They write short standard phrases in their letters and profiles, they think long about their replies.
That's why this method of dating arouses some tension.