She tells me that she’s noticed many men choosing to date white, skinny women who are either blonde or brunette: “Some guys want candy on their arm.That’s partly down to a guy’s insecurity because they want approval.
Is it the same as just not fancying blondes, or is it racist?
Jo Barnett, a dating coach, tells me: “I don’t think it’s racism. You’ll get people who say, I don’t like red-heads, or I don’t like short girls, skinny girls… But when I’m coaching someone, within reason I’ll get them to look beyond that.” More than anything, she just thinks it’s a “shame” that people could be missing out on relationships because of their narrow viewpoints, or insecurities.
They’re just following suit.” That’s more understandable – after all it’s been going on for centuries.
But there does seem to be a difference between making cultural assumptions, and people claiming they’re just not attracted to certain races, or fetishising them.
They’re just making judgements based on your looks.” Is that OK?